“Wala akong paki…😒”

By: Hensie Tumbagahan

Ang sakit di ba? Feeling entitled yan? As a human being hindi lang makailang beses na naririnig at naranasan ang ganitong salita.
And speaking with conscience, I was once like this. Thus, resulted in friction, argument, and disorganization within a relationship.
Ang hirap kontrolin ng sarili pag apektado sa sinasabi ng iba. Naabsorb na ang hindi magandang pagsasalita at nadadala sa gawa. Dahilan din ito ng pagiging drifted natin in our thoughts.
How about instead of saying, “I don’t care!” switch to, “I understand what you feel but…”
Dagdagan na kung ano ang reason why we need to refuse.
Example:
I was talking to my kid and niece when they argued. I was listening while they talked until my princess said, “I don’t care kung nainitan ka.”
Hmmmm. Napaisip agad ako where did she learnt those words. Nakikinig lang ako but I could feel the hate, no remorse, and self-entitlement.
But of course as a parent, hindi pwedeng busted ka din sa feelings and behavior. They will not open their feelings and experiences if tayo mismo naka-ready na para sa gyera.
A simple way to talk to a kid who is exploring their sea of emotions:
“Palangga, pag si mama ang nagsabi sayo ng I don’t care, ano ma-feel mo?”
She started crying and telling her stories. 😢
Kaya nga home is the first school of education. Good manners and right conduct. GMRC?
The moment na we say “I don’t care” to anyone is the time we gonna lose them. Hindi na maibabalik ang dating pinagsamahan o kung bumalik man may crack na hanggang sa tuluyan na itong masira.
I don’t care may be seen in WORDS or ACTIONS. Let’s be honest here, human beings are sinners.
Do we need to infect those innocent little children na hindi pa nakikita ang mundo nung may pinagdadaanan tayo na hindi maganda?
When I said “Mama loves and cares sa feelings mo palangga,” that she stopped crying and asked, “San’o ikaw mauli? (Kailan ka uuwi?)”
Let’s try to be a better people for our kids and new generation of this world.
Be a child in an adult’s body.
Peace and love. ❤️
-HINC-