OFW Corner: Healing or Personal Development?

Parang parehas lang. Kung walang personal development, hindi din maghe-heal. Kung walang healing, hindi rin magkakaroon ng personal development.

Sabi nga ng isang sikat na salawikain, “It takes two to tango.”

Subalit, paano ang mga hindi marunong sumayaw? Can they sing? Maybe act? Should they write?

It’s always on you. Ang mahalaga may gawin ka. May sinimulan ka. Wag mong tigilan hanggang sa makita mo kung saan ka papunta. Kung ano ang makakapagsaya sa’yo. Kung ano ba talaga ang meron sa’yo, hindi ang wala sa’yo.

I’m certain of this view:

Kapag nakita at alam na ang hinahanap ng sarili mo, kahit ikaw pa ang may pinaka-maraming flaws, imperfections, or underprivileged sa lahat ng bagay – you will feel fulfilled.

It’s like a cherry on top of my drink.

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It’s her I can’t leave, yet.

It isn’t about a failed relationship. It isn’t about the person who betrayed her feelings. It isn’t about the people who make her life their favorite tea in every gathering.

It’s her.

She’s the one who refuses to grieve. She’s the one who doesn’t want to stop the fight. She’s the one who keeps on asking questions to obvious answers. Her who doesn’t know how to recieve love and respect.

I pity her so much. I’ve tried to show her what she needs to accept, although, I’ve just discovered she knew it all along.

She is just the kind of soul who never gives up. For her, freedom isn’t about letting go, giving into pleasure, and working on her dreams.

For her, freedom is to show her strength and endurance amidst the storms. Freedom is finding balance over high waves. Freedom is making herself feel safe during her weakened state.

She isn’t fighting anyone. She’s in default mode with herself.

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Asking for rights?

Pero kahit gamot ng bata kailangan pang sabihin na bumili? Gusto ng access sa bata, para ano? Para siraan ang sarili niyang ina?

Nanay ngayon ang pinaka-masama dahil they are putting boundaries. Nanay ang nag-sakripisyo at nanindigan sa panahon na hindi sigurado ang tatay kung sa kanya ba talaga ang bata. Nanay ang nagtiis para ilabas at mabigyan ng maayos na buhay ang anak habang ang ginawa ng tatay puro paawa at naghanap ng rason kung bakit hindi kaya, kung ano lang siya, at kung sino lang daw siya. Hindi pa kasama ang panlolokong magkakasama niyong itinago nang napakatagal na panahon.

Piniling manatili sa lugar kung nasaan sadlak siya.

Stop dragging us sa kumunoy na ikaw mismo ang tumalon at ayaw mo ng umahon. Ilang beses ba dapat magbigay ng tsansa para tulungan kayo?

Rights are properly given, sa’yo lang, hindi sa buong angkan kung saan buong pagkatao ng ina ng bata ang hinayaan na sirain niyo.

Magtago ka sa saya ng lahat na ipagtatanggol ang kahinaan mo, pero wag na wag mong gagamitin ang bata para kaawaan ka.

Spell, duwag. D-U-W-A-G

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“There is a paradise after our life here on Earth. That is why we believe in God/Allah.”

We had a conversation yesterday, my colleagues and I. We all come from different countries with different beliefs or faiths.

They were talking about their struggles and hardships while maintaining the rules of being a good person even though some people take advantage of it, sometimes.

One of them said, “I know I will be rewarded in my next life.”

The other one agreed.

As i was listening to their conversation, I asked them a question.

“Do you really believe in next life? What if we don’t have a next life? What do you want to do with your life right now?”

Both of them thought deeply.

Look up.

What if God, Lord, Jesus Christ, Allah, and Almighty Father don’t want us to think about the afterlife?

What if He wants us to live this life like there is no next life? Only TODAY. NOW. IN THE PRESENT.

(Ms Hensie Tumbagahan is a OFW for two years working as a spa therapist in Seychelles)